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My New Year’s Resolution to 'Under-Achieve'

I don’t know about you but I arrived at the end of last year feeling quite tired and burnt out.

Over Christmas/New Year, I was tackling so much less that I began to deeply relax… and a digestive issue cleared up all by itself… 

It occurred to me that it would be a grand idea to not set out to be SuperWoman this year by taking on so very much but to instead be more realistic about how much I am likely to be able to achieve in a day and deliberately only tackle that much; to deliberately 'under-achieve’.

I'm Cured!

Rosemary McCallumMeet Dr Rosemary McCallum, metaphysician, author, speaker, and wise woman. I’ve just enjoyed a few months in her consulting room talking about one of my 'dark little secrets’, and the red-lips-kiss on her cheek is the imprint of my kiss of thanks! (via my blurry photographic unskills…)

Here’s the ‘backstory’:

Over the last few years I’ve achieved quite a lot. I can literally say that I am living my dreams because it was always a dream of mine to have a close-knit, loving family and be a published author, especially one who is popularising universal laws. Tick, tick, tick! 

But I’ve often felt frustrated because it seemed to me that many of my goals were taking forever to be realised. Being a ‘mastery’ author, I often felt embarrassed about this, as if I was somehow failing. I’d compare myself with others and find myself wanting.

As I applied myself to understanding this dynamic, I came to understand that I was resoundingly successful in the areas of my highest values and still in process in the other areas, and that was theoretically okay (though not really because I wanted to be on top of all of it!). I came to understand that we are never ‘off track’ in our lives because every experience is part of the tapestry of our unfolding, and that was theoretically acceptable (though not really because I wanted to be on my preferred track all of the time!).

So when people made comments like, ‘Why don’t you use ‘The Mastery Club’ stuff to achieve your goals?’ I felt offended. What do you think I’m doing? I’d think indignantly. (And secretly I felt embarrassed or ashamed because they were ‘right’; I was clearly failing…)

However when I gave my presentation on the Be Who You Wanna Be Youth Summit on Thursday, I noticed that I was saying all the theory and really believing it!!! And when someone asked me, on Friday, ‘Do you ever wonder why things are taking so long to happen?’ I answered with 100% honesty, ‘I used to but now I know that everything is 100% perfectly on track and unfolding in perfect order and timing, and it always has been.'

I realised that I’m on a long time-frame because I’m birthing a big project. Things haven’t happened as fast as I thought they ‘should’ but, if I’m completely honest, I wouldn’t have been ready for big things before now anyway. I was prioritising being an available mother – now my kids are out in the world doing their own thing and I’m literally free to take off. Previously I knew my books were good and I had lots of offer but I still wasn’t massively confident. I was allowing the fact that it hadn’t all happened yet to undermine me. Now, as my work is being validated over and over again by all sorts of people from all sorts of backgrounds, I’m feeling way more confident and the larger time-frame and perspective is enabling me to see that it was all always on track, I just wasn’t seeing enough of the picture.

I’m relaxing and recognising that I’ve just been in process and that was where I was and this is where I am now and it’s all perfect.

So what does all of this have to do with a kiss for Rosemary? Because, sweetheart that she is, she has ‘held the space’ for me over the last few months as I talked through the places where I felt stuck until I was able to bring ‘all of me’ to this place of recognition of perfection, rather than just my intellect. Hence my (tongue in cheek) declaration when I arrived in her consulting room yesterday: ‘I’m cured!'

And really, there are lots more kisses to award – for Bruce Conrad-Williams, for Tanya Bewicke, for Tim Marlowe, for Dr Demartini, for Rowan Burn – all the people over the last few years who have tried to get me to see that it’s all perfect just as it is. Thanks, guys!

And thanks to me, for hanging in there and teaching what I most needed to learn over and over and over until the penny dropped and I learnt it.

The Peter Pan Principle

Did you read or watch Peter Pan when you were a child?

I remember being captivated by this story about a youth who is perpetually young and can do all sorts of magical things (like fly), and who lives an adventurous life battling crocs and evil pirates and looking after a band of lost kids!

As with most classic tales, there are a few profound truths being communicated despite the childlike surface story, not least of which is the fact that a one-sided, only-positive life is an illusion.

Do You ‘Crash and Burn’ or ‘Crash and Learn’?

How to extract the wisdom, opportunities and benefits from difficult experiences.

We’ve all heard the truism that it’s not how many times we fall down that matters, it’s how many times we get up. (And the other one about getting back on the horse.) Which is all good sense and we know they’re right, but it ain’t easy.

In fact, speaking for myself, I’m thinking of creating a business card that says, ‘Failure Expert’ because I seem to have a knack for screwing things up. I’m not sure that I would attract many willing clients, but perhaps if we all made a study of our ‘failures’, we’d be better able to transform our challenging situations.

The Whole News: Author Bares All

When I returned from Bali with my swollen, churning belly, I didn't have the energy for anything but reading; it so happened that the page I was up to in my Demartini book delivered some profound insights that stopped me in my tracks. (Synchronicity yet again!) 

I shared these insights about how I was speaking the language of desperation ('have to', 'need to', 'must') in relation to my business in my previous blog, and that this emotional state of desperation had undermined my immune system. In the weeks since then, as I've continued to butt up against the issue of my apparent 'business failure', I've had more realisations that I hope will serve you as well.  

The Ultimate Creativity

A Creativity course led by an art teacher makes us think about drawing and painting and pottery types of creativity, but in its broadest sense, creativity is about creating anything, including one's life – as my new Mastery Club Trainee Facilitator, Joan Marie, recently reminded me! (Which is kind of funny, since one of The Mastery Club characters is the art teacher, Ms Mackie, who directly draws the link between sculpting and creating one's dream life...)

Joan is an accomplished artist and an art teacher in Missouri, USA. We've been in touch via email over the last few years since our paths crossed due to the Next Top Author competition and Joan wrote to me expressing her delight over The Mastery Club and her desire to teach it. Well, having conceived of her Creativity Course, she figured this was the perfect match – and then brought me up to speed!

"You is kind, you is smart, you is important"

If you've seen the movie, The Help, you'll recognise the phrase, "You is kind, you is smart, you is important" as the greeting that black maid Aibileen gives each day to her young white charge. 

As a young mother, Aibileen's own son was put in someone else's care while she went out to work, and then, in the prime of his life, he is killed in a workplace accident. But instead of drowning in resentment, she lavishes her love and blessings upon the daughter of her indifferent and sometimes cruel employers.

'Mastering Order' - notes from my Book Launch Talk

Those of you who have heard me speak know that the process I’ve been through since writing The Mastery Club has been quite transformational. I went from a place where my family was in breakdown and I had effectively given up on my dreams as a writer to having a renewed and much stronger family and realising some of my dearest dreams.

The journey I have been on since I first began jotting ideas for The Hidden Order has been extraordinary – confronting – intense – unsettling, and it has honestly transformed my life – again! But before I share that, I’d like to go back in time so you can understand why and how I embarked on this journey in the first place.

'We are practising our ability to create.'

Rachel Shields

Synchronicity strikes again. A few weeks ago I was invited to Unity Church to hear a friend speak, and while there I happened to meet a young woman of indigenous heritage, Rachel Shields. I'd been wanting to open the Book Launch with an Aboriginal Acknowledgement of Land and Ancestors, and here was the perfect person to do so. How perfect even I did not yet know.

This morning Rachel came to visit me, bearing a gift that I will bring to the Launch, and empowering us to create our own Acknowledgement ceremony. She also suggested another simple ritual that we will carry out, so be prepared for an afternoon that will reach out to all your senses!

Harry Potter and The Hidden Order

No, it's not a new Harry Potter book – although it sounds like one, doesn't it! It's my reflections about the presence of universal laws in the Harry Potter books, and particularly two favourites of mine, The Law of Polarity, discussed in The Mastery Club, and The Law of Conservation, introduced in The Hidden Order.

When I began reading the Harry Potter series to my son 11 years ago, I was bothered by the emphasis on 'evil' – the whole series is about resisting/fighting/defending against evil. At one level the books are a great demonstration that 'what we resist, persists' (this thought gave me an idea for another novel for youth that I'm currently writing), however the more I studied Dr Demartini's work, the more I realised that while the 'resist persists' idea might be true, there will always be an element of evil in the world, whether we like it or not. 

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Who is Liliane?

A writer, writing coach, teacher, speaker, editor, ghostwriter… 
I love creating worlds, both imaginary (fictional stories) and real (living consciously and deliberately)  and I love helping others to do those things too (write your books, create your reality). I also love providing safe, fun environments for learning phenomenal, empowering ideas about writing and life mastery / universal laws. To enquire or book me as a speaker, send me a line!