'I knew all the answers
The way my life should go
When I used to say my prayers
I would tell God so.
It seemed He wasn’t listening
I thought He didn’t care
But looking back
It’s plain to see
He was always there.
‘Cos I prayed for strength
And I got pain that made me strong
I prayed for courage
And got fear to overcome
When I prayed for faith
My empty heart brought me to my knees
I don’t always get what I want
I get what I need.'
- Karen Taylor Good
'Events don't cause stress. What causes stress are the views you take of events.'
“The world is not to be put in order; the world is in order. It is for us to put ourselves in unison with this order.”
- Henry Miller
‘‘Time and space are modes by which we think and not conditions in which we live.’
- Albert Einstein
‘'All problems are problems of the imagination and all solutions are solutions of the imagination.’
- Albert Einstein
‘People have given their health to the doctor, their money to their banker, their soul to the preacher, their children to the school system and in doing so have lost the power to control their lives.’
- Rolling Thunder
‘Yesterday I was clever so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise so I am changing myself.’
‘Perhaps the best description of the relationship between science and religion is the phrase: ‘The duality of one is the unity of two’.’
- Joey Lawson, heuristic philosopher
“The door that shuts you out is the same door that lets you in.”
- Old Indian saying
'Your circumstances do not define you; your character does.'
- Nkandu Beltz, author of I Have The Power - Unlocking Your Potential to Change the World
Research shows it takes an average of fifteen years to be ‘an overnight success’.
- from Brighten Your Day with Self-Esteem by William J McGrane, CPAE
'Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal.'
- Henry Ford
'What is a grey sky but a blue sky with a cloud or two?'
- lyric from a song
'The idea that there is an interface between our thoughts and a responsive universe is a vast improvement over the belief that we are alone down here and that no one is listening. But the suggestion that all we have to do is change our thinking, without doing the deeper work to actually alter our consciousness, is a backward step that has led many of us astray. If the universe responds to anything, it is authentic expansion- not feigned positivity, not flights of fancy, not wish-full thinking with no ground to support it. I have known too many good souls who lost their footing by buying into the bullshit positivity movement. Many of them lost everything while chasing a dream before they had built the necessary foundation to manifest and sustain it. It is time to ground our spirituality in good ole common sense. There are no magic potions on the trailways of transformation. One foot in front of the other, one learning at a time, from sole to soul. Enbullshitment, or Enrealment... pick your path.'
- Jeff Brown
‘I think there is a world market for maybe five computers.’ - Thomas Watson, chairman of IBM, 1948
‘We don’t like their sound, and guitar music is on the way out.’ - Decca Recording Co. rejecting the Beatles.
‘We don’t need you. You haven’t got through college yet.’ - Hewlett-Packard’s rejection of Steve Jobs, co-founder of Apple Inc.
‘It doesn’t matter what he does, he will never amount to anything.’ - Albert Einstein’s teacher talking to his father, 1895
‘Drill for oil? You mean drill into the ground to try and find oil? You’re crazy.’ - Friend speaking to Tolvin Drake, oil drilling founder.
‘Always go with the choice that scares you the most because that’s the one that is going to require the most from you.’
- Caroline Myss
'Life consists with wildness. The most alive is the wildest.’
- Henry David Thoreau
'In order to forgive someone, you must first judge something they did as bad or wrong. But to sit in judgement is to behave as if we know everything there is to know about a person or a situation. The truth is, we generally know very little about the big picture or the grand design. Since all of existence is part of this master plan, then everything and everyone who exists is a part of the perfection – even our sickness and disease. In the long run, there are no actual mistakes.'
- Dr John Demartini, Count Your Blessings - The Hidden Power of Gratitude and Love
‘Everything we see is inside our own heads.’
- R Buckminster Fuller
‘When life is sweet, say ‘thank you’ and celebrate. When life is bitter, say ‘thank you’ and grow.’
- quote from http://www.thecrystalmessenger.com/
“Problems may only be avoided by exercising good judgement. Good judgement may only be gained by experiencing life’s problems.”
- The Ultimate Gift by Jim Stovall, p 59
“Only he who can see the invisible can do the impossible.”
– Frank L. Gaines
A friend's daughter made a comment about her mother’s behaviour and then said, ‘Observing, not judging!’
I suspect that she was reiterating something a switched-on adult had said to her (maybe her mother?), but whether it was that or
whether it was an intuitive wisdom of her own, what a great reminder for us all!
“Problems may only be avoided by exercising good judgement. Good judgement may only be gained by experiencing life’s problems.”
- Rabindranath Tagore
“Children have their active subconscious mind which, like the tree, has the power to draw food from the surrounding atmosphere. For them the atmosphere is a great deal more important than rules and methods, equipment, textbook lessons… But in our educational organisations we behave like miners, digging only for things, and not like the tillers of the earth whose work is a perfect collaboration with nature.”
- Rabindranath Tagore
"Accept – then act. Whatever the present moment contains, ACCEPT it as You have chosen it.
Always work with it, not against it… This will miraculously transform Your whole life..."
- Eckhart Tolle
“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off the goal.”
- Henry Ford
“I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.”
- Michael Jordan
"Life is a mirror… The face of God is everywhere."
"A memory without the emotional charge is called wisdom."
- Dr Joe Dispenza, Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself, page 164
"We must take responsibility for the way we feel. The notion that others can make us feel good or bad is untrue. Consciously – or more frequently – unconsciously, we are choosing how we feel at every single moment. The external world is in so many ways a mirror of our beliefs and expectations. Why we feel the way we feel is the result of the symphony and harmony of our own molecules of emotion that affect every aspect of our physiology, producing blissful good health or miserable disease."
- Candace Pert, Molecules of Emotion - the Science behind Mind-Body Medicine, Appendix A
"The greatness of a school is measured neither by acres nor by numbers of students – but by purpose and accomplishments."
- John F Kennedy
"In any area of your life that you don't empower, you will attract people who will overpower you. You are not a victim of their over-empowerment. You are just attracting over-empowerment by your very nature, to get you to raise the value of that area and empower it. The so-called victimisation is actually giving you the opportunity to realise where you are not empowered, to frustrate you enough to get you empowered."
- Dr John Demartini, The Values Factor, pp 383-4
"The place God calls you to is the place where your deep gladness and the world's deep hunger meet."
- Theologian, Frederick Buechner
"What we leave behind is not what is engraved on stone monuments but what is woven into the lives of others."
"Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your hearts."
“And the day came when the risk it took to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”
- Anaïs Nin
"We do not see things as they are. We see things as we are."
- the Torah
"Our ends are joined by a common link
With one we sit, with one we think
Success depends on which we use
Heads we win, tails we lose."
"The past should be used as a trampoline and not a couch."
"Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."
- Gautama Buddha
"A cruel man oppresses his neighbour and so does evil. But in doing such evil, he is used by God, without his own knowledge or consent, to produce the complex good – so that the first man serves God as a son, and the second as a tool. For you will certainly carry out God's Purpose, however you act."
- CS Lewis
"In one drop of water are found all the secrets of all the oceans; in one aspect of you are found all the aspects of existence."
- Kahlil Gibran
“And if you hit upon the idea that this or that country is safe, prosperous, or fortunate, give it up, my friend….for you ought to know that the world is ablaze with the fires of some faults or others. There is certain to be some suffering… and a wholly fortunate country does not exist anywhere. Whether it be excessive cold or heat, sickness or danger, something always afflicts people everywhere; no safe refuge can thus be found in the world.”
- Buddhist Scriptures
"I have nothing to recommend to you, absolutely nothing, except what you yourself are prepared to learn from the enormous wisdom of your incredible inner self. The strongest preventive force, the one preventive mechanism that never stops working for us is our instinct. All healers agree that this is so. When they recommend a vacation or some rest, they are encouraging us to function out of instinct. They are conceding that there are inner capacities that infinitely exceed all learned knowledge."
- Milton Ward, The Brilliant Function of Pain
"The greatest danger for most of us is not that we aim too high and we miss it but that we aim too low and we make it."
"Being a full-time mother is one of the highest salaried jobs in my field, since the payment is pure love."
- Mildred B. Vermont
A Snippet from Psychologist Ken Pierce's newsletter about 'Resolving Your Need For An Apology':
Step 1 - Identify the person who you feel owes you an apology. (e.g. My spouse for disrespecting me.)
Step 2 - Identify what you learned from the event which serves you. (e.g. I learned to stand up for myself by setting a relationship boundary.)
Step 3 - Identify how this specific learning benefits you in each of the seven areas of your life. (e.g. How does it strengthen your spirit; How does it build your self esteem; How does it enhance your work; How does it enhance your finances; How does it serve your social relationships; How does it serve your family relationships, and How does it enhance your physical health?)
Step 4 - Notice, once you have found the equilibrating benefits to the event, how you feel no need for an apology. Instead gratitude or appreciation surfaces.
"The stock market is a financial redistribution system. It takes money away from those who have no patience and gives it to those who have."
– Warren Buffet
"Create your future from your future, not your past."
– Werner Erhard
"Don't wait for a light to appear at the end of the tunnel. Stride down there and light the thing yourself!"
– Sara Henderson
“I just put 'failing my license test' into my good things of 2013 jar!"
– Emma Grace (read Liliane's blog for the whole story)
“Only the right realisation of the one Mind will give us peace and enable us to look at the battleground and see that everything, everywhere, is peaceful. There's a bloody battle going on all the time if we judge by appearances. But when we judge with 'enlightened judgement', we can discern that everything, everywhere, is peaceful and good and intelligent and harmonious. There is no conflict; there is no strife – there is only one Mind, and this Mind is in control of the whole universe. Right where strife seems to be, there is harmony because the one Mind is in charge [regardless of appearances to the contrary]."
– Dr Thomas Hora, founder of Metapsychiatry
“Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing himself.”
– Leo Tolstoy
Mark Bunn, author of Ancient Wisdom for Modern Health, shares a story about a little primary school just outside Cooma in NSW called Numeralla Public School, where every student is encouraged to do something nice for another student every day without telling them. Each day they are to select a different student. Principal, Ms Jan Rogers, says, 'About three years ago we adpoted the Fish Philosophy, which has four simple rules: be there for others, make someone's day, choose your attitude, and play – that is, make learning and interactions iwth each other fun.'
Mark reports that 'One of the parents commented to me that the children in our school are so busy trying to make each other's day that they don't habe time to be mean to each other!
'So successful has this one one little idea been that behavioural problems, bullying and violence, which are becoing widespread at many schools these days, are almost non-existent at this school. Langdon (a father) said that someties children who have come from other schools attempt bullying tactics. However, if they start trying to bully other kids, they are soon told by the older students that 'we don't do that here'.
'At Numeralla Public School, the students actually look forward to going to school and doing their good deed each day. Why? Because it makes them feel good?'
- Ancient Wisdom for Modern Health by Mark Bunn, pp 56-57.
Some thought-provoking quotes from Chamalú – The Shamanic Way of the Heart by Luise Espinoza (Chamalú):
“Bad times are a good school; the rest is often a lie.”
“The only way to know each other is to share adversities.”
“Death always walks at our side wherever we go. It is our permanent companion, but it need not worry us or cause fear. Death walks at our side to remind us that we must live…"
“Nothing is good or evil in itself; everything is an opportunity.”
“Happiness is our natural state. That is to say, unhappiness is an affront to the Universe, an act of irreverence to Tata Ini [Father Sun; Visible representation of the Invisible God], a grotesque pollution of the atmosphere. We have no right to be unhappy. It is an infraction.”
"Peace. It does not mean to be in a place where there is no noise, trouble or hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things and still be calm in your heart." – Unknown
“There are dreams that you dream when you are asleep and dreams you dream when you are awake. The dreams you dream when you are asleep teach you lessons about yourself. The dreams you dream when you are awake teach you even more.
"Have the courage to dream dreams that are difficult to fulfill. For Me there is no such thing as an impossible dream. There are some dreams that I will allow to become reality and others that I will not, but all dreams are possible.
"Even more important than checking a dream against reality to determine if it is worthwhile, check with Me. ‘Would My beloved Father and powerful King wish me to wish this dream?’
"If the answer is yes, go forward with it. Even if you don’t bring the entire dream to fruition, partial completion is also a success.
"There is a loftiness and elevation in dreaming noble dreams. The dream itself is magnificent. The dream itself uplifts you.
"What is your dream, My dear child?” – Rabbi Pliskin
"In Italy for thirty years under the Borgias, they had warfare, terror, murder, bloodshed – but they produced Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci, and the Renaissance. In Switzerland, they have brotherly love, five hundred years of democracy and peace, and what did they produce? The cuckoo clock." - Graham Greene, The Third Man
“Nothing is stronger than an idea whose time has come.” - Victor Hugo (1802-1885), French poet, novelist, and playwright.
Confucius says wisdom is gained through experience (the bitterest), imitation (the easiest) and reflection (the noblest)...
"Show me someone who has done something worthwhile and I'll show you someone who has overcome adversity." - Lou Holtz
"Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit." - Napoleon Hill.
"To realise your desire and overcome your frustration, affirm boldly several times a day: 'The infinite intelligence which gave me this desire leads, guides and reveals to me the perfect plan for the unfolding of my desire. I know the deeper wisdom of my subconscious is now responding, and what I feel and claim within is expressed in the without. There is balance, equilibrium, and equanimity."
- from The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Dr Joseph Murphy, page 42.
"The real voyage of discovery consists not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes." - Marcel Proust.
I said, "There are no victims in this world, and nothing happens to us randomly, so what part of you wanted to get rid of that business?"
He went completely still, looked me in the eyes for the first time, and said, "You know, I actually hated that company. I knew we were ripping those poor people off and I felt so guilty about it, but I couldn't walk away from the money."
I asked him, "So the richer you got, the worse you felt?"
"And what do you think the effect of years of intense guilt and shame would be?"
"I'd probably have a heart attack or cancer, just to escape it."
"Has it ever occurred to you to thank this man for saving your life?"
"No... but it does now."
"And thank him for teaching you not to rescue people and listen to your intuition? That's priceless."
He said slowly, "I can't believe I'm saying this, but it was a bargain."
- From Way of the Wealthy - 7 Financial Laws & Universal Principles that will Transform Your Life by John Hanna and Timothy Marlowe, page 31.
"All emotions are lies. The truth is love, but emotions are half-truths, distortions and lies. There is nothing but love, and all else is illusion... You don't have command over anything you have emotions about; you only have command over the things you love. Love is a perfectly equilibrated, divinely ordained state of consciousness that's available to you 24 hours a day if you just balance your mind and don't let it go off on emotional illusions... Some say that love's blind, but it is not; it sees clearly. Emotions are blind because they see only one side. When you run your life by infatuations and resentments you disempower yourself. You give your power away – not because of anything others do, but becuase of what you do." – The Breakthrough Experience by Dr John Demartini, page 41.
"For this is the great secret, which was known to all educated men in our day: that by what men think, we create the world around us, daily new." – The Mists of Avalon by Marion Zimmer Bradbury, page 2.
"The master is he or she who, upon seeing reprimand, immediately asks, 'Where's the praise? Oh, it's in me. I was cocky and thinking I was better than I really am, and I've attracted reprimand to show me that and equilibrate me. I only attract that which is love because there is nothing but love. Love is all the universe is.' " - Dr John Demartini, Mastery.
'Times are bad. Children no longer obey their parents, and everyone is writing a book.' - Cicero, 106 - 43 BC
"Seriously," Nina said seriously; "no matter what you do, come up with anything that you think is better than something else and you'll find out that it's not."
"I accept the challenge," Sandy replied, holding her gaze.
- from The Hidden Order by Liliane Grace
"I am who I am both, as a result of people who respected me and helped me, and of those who did not respect me and treated me badly." – Nelson Mandela
"Leadership is measured by the ability to manage high levels of both praise and reprimand or criticism." - Dr John Demartini (paraphrased)
We are 700 times more likely to follow through on something if we have someone we are accountable to... (heard at a Dale Beaumont seminar in February).
I've just been tutoring a young man who thought he might want to be a writer but just couldn't seem to get around to doing any writing... It seemed he had a case of laziness, but the truth is that he hadn't yet identified what he really wanted to do.
Sometimes it looks like we're being lazy but if we need external motivation to do something, it probably isn't that important to us. Our true values inspire us and energise us, and when we identified the thing that was higher on his values than writing, he lit up.
What lights you up?
“Opportunity is missed by most people because it dresses in overalls and looks like work.” - Thomas Alva Edison
Goals we just dream about remain dreams; it takes a strategy and persistent action to achieve our dreams.
“You will recognize your own path when you come upon it, because you will suddenly have all the energy and imagination you will ever need.” - Jerry Gillies
"Don't ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people that have come alive." – Howard Thurman
From Pollyanna’s Door to Happiness by Elizabeth Borton
… “Pollyanna thought of the power of the imagination.
“Curbed and exercised for our entertainment, it gives us pure happiness,” she mused. “Running wild, though, and substituting itself and its manufactured dreams for reality… it plunges us into problems, despair, mental troubles… It is a thing like fire; capable of infinite good and comfort if harnessed and guided and understood… and capable of injuring us in unaccountable ways, if we permit it to rule us.”
Buddhist nun Tenzin Palmo shared: "We are like rough pieces of wood. If we rub ourselves with silk or velvet, it may be nice, but it won't make us smooth. To become smooth, we need sandpaper."
The power of self-discipline
In the classic Stanford Marshmallow Experiment, researchers gave children a choice between one marshmallow right away, or two later. Most struggled to resist the treat and held out for less than three minutes. "A few kids ate the marshmallow right away," Walter Mischel, the Stanford professor in charge of the experiment, remembers. "They didn't even bother ringing the bell. Other kids would stare directly at the marshmallow and then ring the bell thirty seconds later." About 30% of the children, however, successfully delayed gratification until the researcher returned, some 15 minutes later. These kids wrestled with temptation but found a way to resist. The most interesting results came years later: children who waited fifteen minutes had SAT scores that were, on average, 210 points higher than those of those who waited only 30 seconds. This New Yorker article delves into the mental processes behind self-control. For the whole article: http://www.dailygood.org/more.php?n=4668
How to fit affirmations into your day
My daughters and I have just started working out at Curves and it struck me that this is the perfect place for doing affirmations. I used to do them while walking at the park with my dog, and for a while haven't done them much at all. I think of affirmations as 'training wheels for the mind' – they're a great tool when you want to blitz your consciousness and change an attitude that isn't serving you into something more useful. Then I find that the general thoughts I'm thinking start to reflect my 'blitzed new idea'.
Recently I decided that I wanted to address a few limiting thoughts again, and the gym circuit is proving to be a great place to organise me: I do one affirmation while I'm jogging and another while I'm on this machine, another on that machine... Brilliant. I gather that Dr Demartini links his affirmations to daily activities like brushing his teeth and eating an apple, so there's another idea for you. Anything habitual, repetitive or regular is a great activity to link an affirmation to. Red lights in traffic could be a good one... "Every day in every way I'm getting more and more patient..."
The last couple of months have demonstrated the 'orderly beauty' and inspiration available to us when we trust ourselves. Not only was I treated to some magnificent examples of synchronicity, but paths that appeared to be diverging have converged, with insights and greater love for all, and risks are paying off. (I share much of this in my blog.)
I'm increasingly finding that trust is about taking small steps and following small inclinations, hints, urges. So don't wait for drums and cymbals or lightning or fireworks. If you feel drawn to do something, trust that impulse and go explore. You might feel like contacting someone, seeing a movie, reading a book, cooking a particular meal or even having a nap - make it a habit to trust yourself more and more. The rewards are so enriching and often astounding.
From Jim Rohn, American entrepreneur, author, philosopher, and motivational speaker:
"Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person you become."
From The Greatest Manifestation Principle in the World - The Missing Secret behind the Law of Attraction that will enable you to finally manifest your heart's desires, by Carnelian Sage.
"One important thing to bear in mind is that it is never materialism or the desire for personal gain that manifests your desires. Therefore, for as long as your desires are motivated by materialism, personal gain or other selfish interests you can visualize your desires all day long and yet you may never get what you want... In practising the Law of Attraction,while it's possible to observe good things happening in your life, more often than not, it is either confirmation bias or the observer-expectancy effect that may be causing you to observe those good things."
Instead, love is the x-factor: "Love is the most powerful magnetic force in the universe. It is the doorway from the unmanifest to the manifest, and the bridge between the emotional and the spiritual - the pathway from the linear to the non-linear domains... Any endeavour that employs the magnetism of love MUST necessarily manifest because love's frequency is a vibrational match to that of God (G.O.D. - LG), who is architect of all creation."
From Hunting for Power by Susan Oliver:
'There is a reason that we have the goal we do, whatever that goal is. There is an equal reason to why we have not yet achieved that goal. In other words, if you didn't have some form of negative belief, you would have already achieved what you want and would no longer have this goal. In hunting for personal power, we are seeking out the limiting beliefs that are preventing us from achieving whatever goal we place before us. If, in thinking about what you want, your body re-acts in a way that indicates a fear, then this is the issue that needs to be addressed. Again, this is the wound that needs healing. In some respect, our goal is our fear.'
With the festive season at hand, hot weather increasing, and many people tired and challenged, remember to stop the mad rush to wander in nature, sit and gaze at trees and clouds, listen to birds, say 'I love you' to the people you care about, have a laugh with them, hug family, friends and trees... and back-up your computer!
(I had just lost 2 weeks' worth of stuff because my hard disc crashed. So take the time to do the practical things and the self-caring things!)